As Gail watched loved ones walk perilous journeys, she realized her past relationships with them had followed an intentional plan of detachment. It was as though Gail had erected a sign that said, Keep Out. Fear of involvement in situations that could upset her predictable world excluded them from her personal life. Now the caregiving and encouragement they desperately needed began to overpower her inner resistance. Feelings of inadequacy and fear of rejection surfaced, but she couldn't deny the