<p>Challenging accepted theories about what makes for terrific sex, <em>The Erotic Mind</em> is a breakthrough exploration of the least understood dimensions of human sexuality—the psychology of desire, arousal, and fulfillment. Nationally known sex therapist Dr. Jack Morin offers a bold new perspective that celebrates the joys of Eros without denying its risks.</p><p>Based on an in-depth analysis of over 1,000 provocative stories of peak sexual experiences, <em>The Erotic Mind</em> offers clear, accessible guidance on how anyone can utilize his or her own peak encounters and fantasies as powerful tools of self-discovery.</p><p><em>The Erotic Mind</em> explains the many paradoxes of erotic life, such as: why we're most excited when we must overcome obstacles; how anxiety, guilt, and anger—generally thought to have a negative impact on sexual arousal—often turn out to be aphrodisiacs; how we use unresolved issues from our early lives to intensify passion; and why the best sex is dynamic and unpredictable, rather than static and safe.</p><p>These and other insights, combined with concrete suggestions for increasing our enjoyment, overcoming our problems, and revitalizing our relationships, will change forever the way we think about our eroticism.</p>

One in ten people are involved in bondage, spanking, erotic role-play, body modification or other unconventional lifestyles. Now, for anyone who's ever overheard a conversation, glimpsed a toy, or been startled by a tattoo, there is this book which is a sympathetic and comprehensive handbook for helping you understand the behaviours and lifestyles of people you care about.

If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can'-t be found in today'-s fast-paced world, you haven'-t experienced Urban Tantra. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and pleasure-centered spiritual wisdom, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to push past their edge in search of the great cosmic orgasm.With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, including:The Erotic Awakening Massage Breath and Energy Orgasms Twenty-Minute Tantra Evolutionary Selfloving Sex and Healing Tantric BDSMNo matter what your gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes, URBAN TANTRA will expand your notions about pleasure and open you up to new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment.

Based on the author's extensive training and experience in working with abuse survivors, The Survivor's Guide to Sex offers an affirming, sex-positive approach to recovery from incest and rape. While most books on the topic broach sexuality only to reassure women that it is alright to say "no" to unwanted sex, this one encourages women to learn how to say "yes" to their own desires and on their own terms.<p>Points of discussion include problems common to women survivors. Haines teaches survivors to embrace their own sexual choices and preferences, learn about their own sexual response cycles, and heal through masturbation, sexual fantasy, and play. The Survivor's Guide to Sex includes resources, bibliography, and an index.</p>

"Nature's Lessons in Healing Trauma... Waking the Tiger offers a new and hopeful vision of trauma. It views the human animal as a unique being, endowed with an instinctual capacity. It asks and answers an intriguing question- why are animals in the wild, though threatened routinely, rarely traumatized? By understanding the dynamics that make wild animals virtually immune to traumatic symptoms, the mystery of human trauma is revealed. Waking the Tiger normalizes the symptoms of trauma and the steps needed to heal them. People are often traumatized by seemingly ordinary experiences. The reader is taken on a guided tour of the subtle, yet powerful impulses that govern our responses to overwhelming life events. To do this, it employs a series of exercises that help us focus on bodily sensations. Through heightened awareness of these sensations trauma can be healed. "

The Body Keeps the Score sheds new light on the routes away from trauma - which lie in the regulation and syncing of body and mind, using sport, drama, yoga, mindfulness, meditation and other routes to equilibrium.

Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis introduced thousands of people to the exciting, sexy world of erotic hypnosis. Now, take your knowledge to the next level with The Mind Play Study Guide. Are you looking to learn more about erotic hypnosis? The Mind Play Study Guide contains 27 lessons, complete with exercises to use in practicing the skills from each chapter. From the very basics of how to do inductions, deepeners, triggers, and suggestions to an expanded menu of his well-known "Kinky Human Tricks" to advanced topics like transformation play, dual inductions, and mutual hypnosis, Wiseguy's lessons are direct, clear, and detailed enough to have you enjoying mind play at any level you desire. Have you already found a local erotic hypnosis group to play and practice with? Each chapter in the Study Guide contains everything you need to teach the lesson's content to a group, including discussion questions, exercises, and even notes on effective ways to present that topic. There is even a lesson on how to give presentations, in which Wiseguy reveals some of the techniques that he uses to make his classes so entertaining and effective. Whether you enjoy hypnotizing, being hypnotized, or just want to know at a deep level what erotic hypnosis is all about, The Mind Play Study Guide is the most comprehensive handbook you'll find. And it's written in Wiseguy's clear, direct, and often humorous style.

Companion to the 'New Bottoming Book', this is a completely revised and updated edition of the best-selling underground classic for nearly a decade. Gives even more insight and ideas for those who want to be a successful player.

Almost a decade ago, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming - being a submissive, masochist, slave, 'boy' or 'girl, ' or other BDSM recipient -- is as much an art as topping. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular bottom

Why would most people endure unwanted or unsatisfying touch, rather than speak up for their own boundaries and desires? It's a question with a myriad of answers - and one that Dr. Betty Martin has explored in her 40+ years as a hands-on practitioner, first as a chiropractor and later as a Somatic Sex Educator, Certified Surrogate Partner and Sacred Intimate. In her client sessions, she noticed a pattern wherein many clients would "allow" or go along with discomfort or unease rather than speak up for what they wanted or didn't want. Betty discovered there was a major component missing for people -- the confidence that we have a choice about what is happening to us. In her framework, "The Wheel of Consent(R)" Betty traces the fundamental roots of consent back to our childhood conditioning. As children, we are taught that to be "good" we must ignore our body's discomfort and be compliant: to finish our food even if we're full, to go to bed - even if we're not tired, to let relatives hug and kiss us even if we don't want to. We learn that our feelings don't matter more than what is happening, and that we don't have a choice but to go along, whether or not we want it. As adults, this conditioning remains with us until we have an opportunity to unlearn it, which is why consent violations are often only called out after the violation has occurred - because we have not been taught or empowered to notice our boundaries, much less value or express our internal signals as the unwanted action is happening. In this book, Betty guides the reader through the Wheel of Consent framework, and shares practices to help us recover the ability to notice what we want and set clear boundaries. While the practices are based on exchanges of touch, they can also be learned without touch. In these practices, we discover that the Art of Giving includes knowing our own limits so we can be more generous within those limits, and not give beyond our capacity - a common problem which creates feelings of resentment or martyrdom. We also discover that the Art of Receiving invites us to notice and ask for what we really want, and not just what we think we are supposed to want. This knowledge, and its embodied practice, is foundational for creating clear agreements and bringing more satisfaction into relationships. While much of consent education focuses on noticing what we don't want, or prevention of violation, Betty has developed a "pleasure-forward" approach to teaching consent. By first accessing and awakening (sometimes re-awakening) our bodies' relationship to pleasure and what we want, we can practice noticing and verbalizing what we don't want. Such an approach provides a more holistic frame in which to unlearn the childhood conditioning that taught us to be silent and compliant, and in which individuals can learn to ask for what they want and state what they don't, in a more empowered way. The implications of this approach to consent education extends beyond touch and intimate relationships. When we forget how to notice what we really want, we lose our inner compass. When we continue to go along with things we don't feel are right, we lose our ability to speak up against injustice. This has a profound effect on society. We allow all manner of inequality, corruption, theft of natural resources and our planet's future health - because "going along with it" feels normal. The Wheel of Consent offers a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into human interaction, starting with touch and relationships, and further expanding our understanding of consent to social issues of equality and justice.

The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable. <br>For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle--from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms. <br>"I couldn't stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives . . . a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends." --Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for OneReviewsPRAISE FOR THE SECOND EDITION‚AuThis book is the definitive guide to having your marriage and eating other people too. The Ethical Slut made me the ethical slut I am today, and I am so proud ‚Au ‚AiMargaret cho, comedian and author of I‚Aom the One That I Want ‚AuThe Ethical Slut is one of the most useful relationship books you could ever read, no matter what your lifestyle choices. It‚Aos chock-full of great information about communication, jealousy, asking for what you want, and maintaining a relationship with integrity. An absolute masterpiece and a must-read ‚Au ‚AiAnnie Sprinkle, PhD, sexologist and author of Dr. Sprinkle‚Aos Spectacular Sex ‚AuMany people wish for and dream of a wider world sexually and live out their lives unable to find the courage to explore. This book is a thoughtful, practical, and loving look at that exploration.‚Au ‚AiDavid crosby, musician and author of Since Then‚AuThe Ethical Slut, in this new and expanded edition, is the definitive guide for creating and sustaining all conscious relationships‚Aipolyamorous, open, alternative, and monogamous. Don‚Aot enter into another relationship without it ‚Au ‚AiBarbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra ‚AuDossie and Janet‚Aos blend of good humor and forthright honesty makes for some of the best writing I have found on sexually complicated relationships and blended family options. Engaging, disarming, forthright‚Aithis is the book for those of us still brave enough to make the ethically complex choices.‚Au ‚AiDorothy Allison, author of Bastard Out of Carolina PRAISE FOR THE FIRST EDITION ‚AuI couldn‚Aot stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives . . . a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends.‚Au ‚AiBetty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One ‚AuA useful guidebook for radical relationship travelers . . . experienced counsel to those on the polysexual frontier.‚Au ‚AiRyam Nearing, Loving More magazine ‚AuA post-graduate course in ethical relationships of every stripe. The authors pull no punches and are totally outrageous. . . . You‚Aoll never be bored.‚Au ‚AiStan Dale, DHS, founder of the Human Awareness Institute ‚AuFrank, funny, and full of practical advice . . . life-saving validation, empathy, and plenty of insider tips from the experienced big sisters you probably weren‚Aot fortunate enough to have.‚Au ‚AiDeborah Anapol, PhD, author of Polyamory: The New Love without Limits

From Barbara Carrellas, sex expert and author of Urban Tantra, comes Ecstasy is Necessary. This is not your average tips-and-techniques sex book; rather it is an exploratory journey of the sexual self and the infinite possibilities of ecstatic expression. In Ecstasy is Necessary, Carrellas teaches readers how to discover, nurture, expand and embrace their authentic, ever-evolving, sensual, sexual self., Everyone goes through different phases of sexual expression and desire, and there are an infinite number of erotic and ecstatic possibilities available at all points along the way. Readers will explore what ecstasy is and learn how it is essential in their quest for their authentic selves. The insights they will gain in their journey with Carrellas will help them confidently approach sex and relationships in a way that works for them no matter where they are in their sexual evolution., Readers will get tools for solving the inevitable challenges that arise, and they will learn about risk-taking and the importance of boundaries. They'll even receive permission not to have sex at all, if that's what's right for them, because it is possible to create ecstatic experiences even when sex itself is not possible, available or appropriate. Using stories and simple exercises, Carrellas helps readers understand how they are wired for sex and relationships, what their personal warning signs look like and what they need for optimum care., Plus, they'll learn how to effectively communicate this information to others so that they can be loved more easily and effectively. As readers discover their authentic sexual selves, they will learn how to create the conditions that allow more and more of their experiences and relationships to be opportunities for - and invitations to - ecstasy.

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

New 2010 Edition with over 100 extra pages of information! Gut and Psychology Syndrome provides the information you need to heal a damaged digestive system. The perfect book for anyone suffering from Autism, Dyslexia, Depression, Dyspraxia, ADD, ADHD, Schizophrenia, and any other condition that has a link with gut dysbiosis.

Out in the Open, Revised Edition: The Complete Male Pelvis offers a frank exploration of the male pelvic region from a cultural and scientific perspective. Focusing on pelvic structure and development, the book explains how male sexuality develops throughout a man's life—from birth onwards. An experienced Rolfer with an academic background in physiology, the late author R. Louis Schultz, PhD, offers the fruits of his wisdom gleaned over the course of his twenty-five year bodywork career. A valuable guide for bodyworkers and laypeople alike, the book addresses such topics as: Genital structureBodywork techniques to treat pelvic tightnessErection, masturbation, and ejaculationThe link between emotion and male sexualitySexual stereotypes and mythsEnhanced with over 120 detailed photos and illustrations, the book offers valuable advice for bodyworkers working in the pelvic region, a possible area of tension and more serious pelvic conditions. Revised by Schultz's protégé, Advanced Rolfer Marcelo Coutinho, this edition includes a redesigned cover, a new foreword by Coutinho, and an added appendix of 20 exercises and self-treatments for common pelvic dysfunctions.

Pregnancy, childbirth, and post-partum offer women some of the most emotionally enriching and satisfying experiences of their life. But many women entering motherhood are shocked at their lack of preparation or awareness about what that actually means for their bodies, minds, spirits, and relationships. Kimberly Johnson, a doula, post-partum recovery expert, and yoga instructor has created a wise and supportive illustrated guide that offers women a roadmap to this very important transition that can last a few months--or even a few years. She draws from her vast professional experience, as well as her own personal experience, and also a number of disciplines including Western medicine, traditional Chinese medicine, Ayurveda, yoga, herbal medicine, energetics, and traditional (folk) remedies, among others, to create a truly rich and holistic guide. The book offers advice for pregnant women on how to prepare their body for birth; how to organize themselves and their households for the best possible transition to motherhood; simple practices to facilitate healing and restore energy; and how to strengthen relationships and aid the return to sex. Johnson also explores the complex and often conflicting emotions that arise post-partum, and explores the profound nature of childbirth and new motherhood. She helps women contextualize their experience and tap into the spiritual opportunities it can provide.

From trauma educator and somatic guide Kimberly Ann Johnson comes a cutting-edge guide for tapping into the wisdom and resilience of the body to rewire the nervous system, heal from trauma, and live fully. In an increasingly polarized world where trauma is often publicly renegotiated, our nervous systems are on high alert. From skyrocketing rates of depression and anxiety to physical illnesses such as autoimmune diseases and digestive disorders, many women today find themselves living out of alignment with their bodies. Kimberly Johnson is a somatic practitioner, birth doula, and postpartum educator who specializes in helping women recover from all forms of trauma. In her work, she's seen the same themes play out time and again. In a culture that prioritizes executive function and "mind over matter," many women are suffering from deeply unresolved pain that causes mental and physical stagnation and illness. In Call of the Wild, Johnson offers an eye-opening look at this epidemic as well as an informative view of the human nervous system and how it responds to difficult events. From the "small t" traumas of getting ghosted, experiencing a fall-out with a close friend, or swerving to avoid a car accident to the "capital T" traumas of sexual assault, an upending natural disaster, or a life-threatening illness-Johnson explains how the nervous system both protects us from immediate harm and creates reverberations that ripple through a lifetime. In this practical, empowering guide, Johnson shows readers how to metabolize these nervous system responses, allowing everyone to come home to their deepest, most intuitive and whole selves. Following her supportive advice, readers will learn how to move from wholeness, tapping into the innate wisdom of their senses, soothing frayed nerves and reconnecting with their "animal selves." While we cannot cure the painful cultural rifts inflicting our society, there is a path forward-through our bodies.

The truth is that most women do not have satisfying sex lives. SLOW SEX can change all that. This step-by-step guide teaches men and women how to use the growing practice of Orgasmic Meditation to slow down, connect emotionally, and achieve authentic female sexual satisfaction. The promise: In just 15 minutes every woman can become orgasmic. And, with the right partner and the right technique, that orgasm could last four months <br>Since 1999, Nicole Daedone has been leading the "slow sex movement" through her popular OneTaste organization, which is devoted to the art and craft of the female orgasm. Thousands have attended her Slow Sex workshops in order to learn the practice of Orgasmic Meditation (OM): the act of slowing down, tuning in, and experiencing a deeper spiritual and physical connection during sex. SLOW SEX reveals the philosophy and techniques of OM and includes a step-by-step, ten-day OM starter program, as well as OMing secrets and exercises for an extended and satisfying female orgasm. The book also includes exercises to help enhance reader's "regular" sex lives, such as Slow Oral for Her, Slow Oral for Him and Slow Sex Intercourse. <br>This book is the argument for intimacy without romance, and for mindfulness as the foundation of pleasure, all with a focus on the female experience.